Yes, dinner tomorrow at home

  • Dates
    2022 - Ongoing
  • Author
  • Locations Toronto, Rotterdam, Hong Kong

This analog series explores Chinese identity through a multi-generational conversation, as the cultural preservation of subjects is visually anchored through their respective domestic spaces.

Yes, dinner tomorrow at home is centered around my maternal side of the family's migration. My aunt immigrated to the Netherlands in 1972 to be with her husband, while my mom immigrated to Canada in 1988 in anticipation of the political climate that would occur in 1997, once China repossessed Hong Kong from Britain. The city has always had a warped identity, as it seems to be living on borrowed time. However, the historical tug-of-war between China and Britain cultivated a space with an unreplicable bond for all Hong Kongers across the globe.

My work shows how Hong Kong immigrants in my family have preserved and passed on Chinese traditions to their children, while the newer generations navigate their own identities. In this chapter of my longterm series, I photographed my family and community in the Netherlands, Canada, and Hong Kong. I wrestled with my definition of being Chinese with the generations who grew up outside of Hong Kong, while also making images of my dad who never left. There are cumulative daily decisions my generation makes that inherently bring us and our descendants closer to our culture, while other customs inevitably fade. The photos integrate portraits and domestic objects that embody Asian Diasporic culture.

Home is the best place to get a sense of a person. Home is where rituals and routines are established and lays the foundation of how one recognizes their role in the world. The home is filled with items that have been curated by the dweller, therefore creating a sense of comfort. From there, I can observe their surroundings and begin cultivating a connection with them. As we share space, the process of image making seamlessly flows from one image to the next — each image melting off another layer of tension until we’re left with a tender understanding.

The theme of hands threads through the images, in various compositions. These gestures are small and fleeting. It is only when the hands have been caught in an act that we can appreciate and analyze what is happening in front of us. It is with our hands that we tell others how we feel. It is with our hands that we cultivate an intimate scene.

I pace back and forth between my tripod and subject to ask for their opinion on the pose, composition, and lighting of the shot. The process of shooting my family with film is my methodology of asserting my presence in the room. My Mamiya RZ 67 medium format camera has a waist level viewfinder where I am required to look down simulating a bowing motion. This integral gesture reminds me of the shared collaborative relationship I’m having with my family — I want to be able to honor and elevate the people that I photograph. The slow burn of composing one image with film creates a heightened sense of excitement where both me and my subject can exist in the same realm of anticipation of what we have created together. They begin to establish their individual presence with every shift and glance. We are able to invoke a spectrum of emotions — from heavy to humorous — in the final shots. Although many shoots begin with the same intention, because of this collaboration, the end result becomes distinct in its own story.

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My mom serenaded me in her bedroom as she practiced her song for her singing class. I remember living next door to her room and hearing the same key change over and over as I fell into a slumber. A decade later, my niece, Taylen, replaces my role as she waits to be tucked in for bed.

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A daughter’s bruise becomes a mother’s bruise. My best friend, Cass, took a hard fall in the snow and her mom quickly began to rub out the bruise with herbal oil. This act of love reminds me of immigrant parents' desire to build a better life for the next generation; the older generation uses their experience in the world to help their children recover faster from physical and mental traumas.

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Auntie Cherry has been my mom’s masseuse in Toronto for the past twenty-five years. My mom always favors a holistic remedy because she grew up in Hong Kong where that is the norm. The West views massages as a luxury expense, but in the East, massages are a necessity to keep your mind attuned with your body. Everyday pressures build tension around key points of your body.

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My dad lives in his childhood flat where he grew up with both parents. He’s surrounded by family memorabilias, fading portraits, and sleeps on the couch with his parents’ portraits looming over. Being in this room with him is such a contrast to how I grew up — across the world, without a father, and no family charged relics to remind me of my roots. He’s documenting me while I capture him.

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When I’m photographing I like to spend time with the objects in the room — focusing on the nuances within each environment. The weathered out pictures are markers of time. The time they spent hanging in my dad’s childhood home. One day he will be gone and remembered on the wall with his mom, dad and the rest of the Ip lineage.

© Hailey Ip - My nieces enthralled in the newest L.O.L doll unboxing compilation brought to them by YouTube.
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My nieces enthralled in the newest L.O.L doll unboxing compilation brought to them by YouTube.

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My mom and aunt catching up over afternoon tea at my cousin's home in Rotterdam. A wide spread of teas to wash down the veggie straws and chocolate eggs.

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My Aunt’s sunroom is filled with items and rituals that remind her of Hong Kong. She has subconsciously built a shrine to the elders that have passed. The ancestors and relics are supported by catalogs of old recipes and photo albums. She visits them daily as she grabs her grocery cart and lays fresh trays of orange peels to be sun-dried.

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A harmonious cycle of care that my cousins’ kids have for one another. They each tend to Chloe (the youngest): painting nails and styling her hair. She looks up to her older cousins with such appreciation and sees them as heroines in her own story. I see myself in Chloe because I grew up as the youngest with three older sisters and looked up to them for guidance.

© Hailey Ip - Unicorns and Barbies make their world go round.
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Unicorns and Barbies make their world go round.

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Semi-dryJocelyn hung her clothes up on the balcony to air dry. The clothes will be left for several hours to be semi-dried in the humid weather. This is one of the most common rituals within a Hong Kong household because of limited space. Because of the constraint in space, my visual compositions have to adapt, which is why this is shot from below.

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Jocelyn is framed by her balcony windows as she rides the elliptical during her winter break trip back to Hong Kong from New York. There she gets to reacquaint herself with traditional customs such as preparing for Chinese New Year: buying orchids, cleaning the flat, and watching whatever Chinese drama her mom puts on.

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After dinner, Uncle Eric prepares the pomelo. A pomelo inherently is a laborious fruit to prepare because of the thick skin surrounding it. Once the skin is torn, there is a commitment to provide time and energy for other people’s fulfillment. This fruit is tied to celebratory times such as Chinese New Year.

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A cold winter morning in Toronto calls for long distance run by my half-sister, Yardley. As she visits me for the holidays, I am met with her mini-me, Tyler, stretching in my mom's kitchen.

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The only shot to have taken place outside of a domestic space and bookmarking the end of this chapter. As my cousins’ kids grow into young adults, the idea of moving out of their childhood home and creating new routines is on the horizon. Amidst the blur, I can make out their smiles, the feeling of hope as they continue their journey in the world, but for now, they run home for dinner.