Published on 7th January 2019

Mother by choice

  • Sandra and Lilje. Lilje was born after insemination treatment with eggs donated from Sandra’s sister in Finland. About her decision to become a single mother, she says:
    ‘ When the doctor came in and told me I probably shouldn’t wait too long to have a child, I thought: I’ll just do it - straight away! One year later, I was pregnant.’

  • Mikaela and Majlis.
    Majlis was born after insemination.
    About her decision to have a child on her own, Mikaela says: '‘My biggest concern was the thought if something might happen to me one day, who would take care of my child then?…I want to be a mother, a woman, sister, everything…not only a mother.’
    Malmö, Sweden

  • Carolina and her sons N. and S.
    Both were born after insemination.
    Malmö. Sweden

  • Anna and Tristan.
    Tristan was born after 1 IVF treatment.
    About her decision to have a child on her own, Anna says: ’’ I wished for a child in order to have the possibility to explore other dimensions of this life on earth.’’
    Uppsala, Sweden

  • Josefin and Abbe.
    Abbe was born through insemination at Storkkliniken in Copenhagen, Denmark. Josefin who is a journalist, wrote the book: ''Den befriade familjen'' (The liberated family) about her experience as a single mother.
    Stockholm, Sweden


  • Sara and Elliott.
    About her decision to become a single mother, Sara says:
    '‘ The absolute best decision I have taken in my life is to have a child on my own. The result is this marvelous kid.’'
    Gothenburg, Sweden

  • Paola and Zion.
    Zion was born after one insemination.
    About her decision to become a single mother, Paolo says: '' This was the best decision of my life ''

  • Sofia and Greta.
    Greta was born after one insemination at Stork kliniken in Copenhagen, Denmark. Sofia is a spokesperson for the organization FEMMIS (The organisation for self chosen single parenthood).
    About the decision to have a child on her own, Sofa says: “ I realised that one can disconnect the idea of a relation with the idea of having a child. A relation has no age limit, one could meet a life partner regardless of age. Once I understood that, I no longer felt stressed about finding a partner first or to settle for second best in order to have my child.”
    Stockholm, Sweden

  • Susanna and Axel.
    Axel was born after IVF at Storkkliniken in Copenhagen, Denmark.
    About her decision to have a child on her own, Susanna says: ’’ Since a long time I had decided that if I hadn’t met a partner and father to my children at 35, I would do something about it myself. Said and done, two years later, after a rollercoaster of emotions and a lot of tears, worries, hormons and hope, Axel arrived, the great joy in my life.’’
    Malmö. Sweden

  • At a quarter to midnight, Sofia is still tapping away on the computer, thinks once again that she should be in bed by now and get a good nights sleep before Greta wakes up again.
    Polaroid taken by Sofia on request to document her family life.
    Stockholm, Sweden


  • Greta enjoys her oatmeal with cinnamon for breakfast before mother Sofia takes her to daycare on the way to work.
    Polaroid taken by Sofia on request to document her family life.
    Stockholm, Sweden.

  • Josefin enjoys a glass of red after tucking Abbe in for the night.
    Polaroid taken by Josefin on request to document her family.
    Stockholm, Sweden.

  • Freja in the bath, she always loved water.
    Polaroid taken by her mother Marika on request to document her family.
    Stockholm, Sweden

  • Marika bakes a cake with Freja, who is allergic to eggs.
    Polaroid taken by a friend of Marika on request to document her family.
    Stockholm, Sweden

  • Heidi and Tim in the water at the summer camp for single mothers and children.
    Polaroid taken by another mother at the camp, upon request to document the family.
    Sweden

  • Malin takes a picture of the syringes on her living room floor. They are a part of the medical kit she needs to prepare her hormons for an upcoming IVF. The clinic later cancelled her IVF appointment since she did not produce enough eggs for an outtake.

  • Joesfin’s sketch of her family, the way she imagined it when growing up.
    She lives with her 5-year old son Abbe in a southern suburb to Stockholm and is the author of the book '' Den befriade familjen'' (The liberated family).

  • Heidi’s sketch of the future family, the way she imagined it when growing up.
    She lives with son Tim in a southern suburb to Stockholm.

  • Helena’s sketch of the family, the way she imagined it when growing up.
    She lives with her 2-year old daughter Vera in central Stockholm.

  • Lisa's sketch of the family, the way she imagined it when growing up.
    She is pregnant with her first child and lives in Gothenburg.

  • Jenny's sketch of her family, the way she imagined it when growing up.
    She lives with her son in central Stockholm.

  • “Lyckan” started as an official county sperm donor to make a bit of extra money while unemployed and helped five women to become pregnant that way. He now has a job as a security guard and is no longer an official donor but gives two main reasons to why he continues to donate privately: 75% is the happiness he can give others by donating, 25% is the satisfactiion of being chosen for the most important thing a woman can do in her life: “It is a product that is delivered, of course a woman should choose the best one.”

  • The man who refers to himself as ’’Daniel’’ joined the webstie donordating.com after his last relationship ended. He wanted children but felt that he couldn’t wait any longer to meet anyone but had the feeling that, after 15 years in Sweden, he had nothing and ’’ 'When you have nothing, even the smallest thing seems like a lot.’’ Now he has helped 4 women to have children, he pays alimony and takes active part as a father for all of them. He is still active on the site, to help others to make their dreams come true but also because of his male instinct to reproduce. ’’Daniel’’ is Argentinian and what bothers him on the site is that most women openly look for ’’ scaninavian men with blue eyes ’’ and many women stop chatting to him the moment they realise he is not Swedish.
    Stockholm, Sweden


  • Björn got the idea to become a sperm donor while watching a film called ’’Roadtrip’’. He did a bit of research and found the page donordating.com and also became an official sperm donor through the hospital Sahlgrenska. From the beginning he was interested in donation as a way of earning money but quickly realised there is no money to be earned. Nowadays he donates to help. So far he has helped 3 lesbian couples and 3 single mothers and from this 1 child has been born.
    Gothenburg, Sweden

  • The sperm bank at Sahlgrenska University hospital in Gothenburg. Since the law permitting single women to receive assisted fertility treatment in Swedish clinics, only a few counties have received the budget required to offer the expensive treatment. Gothenburg is still waiting.

  • A new kind of gender-neutral Gynecoligist chair called ’’Henstolen Kim’’ in an IVF clinic in Stockholm. The chair would fit man as woman and it’s name refers to a gender-neutral personal pronoun in Swedish intended as an alternative to the gender-specific hon ("she") and han ("he").


  • A doctor at the Fertility clinic holds up a tool used to help cristall formation in the process for freezing samples of sperms and embryos. If the crystalls are formed by itself, the cristals become large and may damage the sample.

  • An ultra sound device at an IVF clinic in Stockholm. When a woman commits to IVF treatment, ultra sound is frequently used before the actual procedure as well as after in order to see the hormon stimulated egg production before the outtake of eggs.

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