Sandra and Lilje. Lilje was born after insemination treatment with eggs donated from Sandra’s sister in Finland. About her decision to become a single mother, she says:
‘ When the doctor came in and told me I probably shouldn’t wait too long to have a child, I thought: I’ll just do it - straight away! One year later, I was pregnant.’
Mikaela and Majlis.
Majlis was born after insemination.
About her decision to have a child on her own, Mikaela says: '‘My biggest concern was the thought if something might happen to me one day, who would take care of my child then?…I want to be a mother, a woman, sister, everything…not only a mother.’
Malmö, Sweden
Sofia and Greta.
Greta was born after one insemination at Stork kliniken in Copenhagen, Denmark. Sofia is a spokesperson for the organization FEMMIS (The organisation for self chosen single parenthood).
About the decision to have a child on her own, Sofa says: “ I realised that one can disconnect the idea of a relation with the idea of having a child. A relation has no age limit, one could meet a life partner regardless of age. Once I understood that, I no longer felt stressed about finding a partner first or to settle for second best in order to have my child.”
Stockholm, Sweden
Susanna and Axel.
Axel was born after IVF at Storkkliniken in Copenhagen, Denmark.
About her decision to have a child on her own, Susanna says: ’’ Since a long time I had decided that if I hadn’t met a partner and father to my children at 35, I would do something about it myself. Said and done, two years later, after a rollercoaster of emotions and a lot of tears, worries, hormons and hope, Axel arrived, the great joy in my life.’’
Malmö. Sweden
“Lyckan” started as an official county sperm donor to make a bit of extra money while unemployed and helped five women to become pregnant that way. He now has a job as a security guard and is no longer an official donor but gives two main reasons to why he continues to donate privately: 75% is the happiness he can give others by donating, 25% is the satisfactiion of being chosen for the most important thing a woman can do in her life: “It is a product that is delivered, of course a woman should choose the best one.”
The man who refers to himself as ’’Daniel’’ joined the webstie donordating.com after his last relationship ended. He wanted children but felt that he couldn’t wait any longer to meet anyone but had the feeling that, after 15 years in Sweden, he had nothing and ’’ 'When you have nothing, even the smallest thing seems like a lot.’’ Now he has helped 4 women to have children, he pays alimony and takes active part as a father for all of them. He is still active on the site, to help others to make their dreams come true but also because of his male instinct to reproduce. ’’Daniel’’ is Argentinian and what bothers him on the site is that most women openly look for ’’ scaninavian men with blue eyes ’’ and many women stop chatting to him the moment they realise he is not Swedish.
Stockholm, Sweden
Björn got the idea to become a sperm donor while watching a film called ’’Roadtrip’’. He did a bit of research and found the page donordating.com and also became an official sperm donor through the hospital Sahlgrenska. From the beginning he was interested in donation as a way of earning money but quickly realised there is no money to be earned. Nowadays he donates to help. So far he has helped 3 lesbian couples and 3 single mothers and from this 1 child has been born.
Gothenburg, Sweden