- At this time, I can not see us all agreeing on what gender actually is. As such, I can not define myself in terms of gender either, and I do not feel the need to. There is so much more exciting and interesting to a person than their gender or sexual orientation.
My sexual orientation means I am attracted to a certain group of people, and that is all; it does not say anything about who I am. Who I am is about the qualities I have, my values and personality. So, to me, what gender you assign me is not so important.
At 16 I concluded that I was actually a woman. And so, I lived as a woman for six years. Even before then I was mostly feminine all my life. However, at 22 I did not want to live that way anymore. I tried putting on a more masculine expression, and that was entirely new to me. I viewed it as entering a third phase, not going back in any way. I don not identify through gender at all anymore. When people call me ‘he’, ‘she’ or ‘they’, I just feel like they highlight different traits of mine, and it is all positive. I have realized that I can be exactly who I am, in the body that I have. I do not need any acknowledgment either way. It is not so much that I have changed, but through living and learning, with time and experience, I have developed new views. And so, I see myself in a new light.